TerryJ2

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About TerryJ2

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  • Birthday 06/26/1957

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  • Gender Female
  • Location Virginia
  • Interests Art, writing, reading, dogs, chocolate.
  1. Great clips! Thank you. LOL about the Muslim Rave Dance. Too funny. I've always loved that Flashdance scene.
  2. The Effects of Good Government

    Great story! Is your avatar a painting or a photo? It's too small for me to see the details. I like it, either way.
  3. Who are your favorite painters, and why?

    What a great discussion. I can't believe there are so many works here by artists I haven't heard of. Sometimes I think I live in a cave. I agree w/most of the posts here. I've always loved Maxfield Parrish. Wonderful pieces. Thank you. I would like to add the Wyeth family and Jessie Wilcox Smith to the list. However, they were illustrators so purists would not include them under "fine art." As an illustrator myself, that is a huge sticking point. Art is art, regardless whether you design it to sell or keep for yourself.
  4. Is This Art?

    Apparently this thread is still open. Great examples! And I agree w/Stephen ... absolultely, if it was done from scratch, it is art. "Happiness is a Bluebird" is wonderful, and a great teaching tool. I've got PhotoShop but am poorly versed in it. I still draw the old fashioned way. "Spoiled" has a very odd explanation. While the rendering is beautiful, the artist failed to communicate the intent. If I hadn't read the explanation, I would NEVER have known that was an anti-human(ity) piece. Mac or Red, which one of you did the sketch that was uploaded? Thanks for sharing!
  5. Well done. But why does nobody in government say this?" Indeed. Because it's a different type of government. And certainly not something a person can absorb all in one talk session. Best of luck!
  6. Jury Duty

    Mark, I agree with Bob. I view jury duty as a way of protecting our freedom, not as unproductive time. I've been called twice and served once. It was well worth my time. And I am self-employed. Perhaps some day you'll be called to serve on a short, interesting case, and you will change your mind. Or perhaps you will be taken to court and be tried by a "jury of your peers." I also agree that whether you are an Objectivist is nothing that the attorneys would care about, or need to be concerned about, one way or another.
  7. Thank you, Arnold. This board is lively, interesting, usually filled with reason and reasonable discussions, and there is a lot of variety. Every little bit helps. Terry
  8. An absurd (?) implication of the impotence of evil

    Henrik, with all due respect, I agree with the others, but I can understand where you are coming from. I was lucky in that while I had a mother somewhat like yours, I had a father who taught me to think. In fact, he often told us kids that people had to learn to "think." We loved arguing with him, assuming that any human being had the ability to think. And we were partially right. But what he meant was critical analysis, abstract thinking, cause and effect, etc., rather than mere consciousness. When we were kids, we assumed that consciousness, the ability to realize you are human, and that there is a yesterday and tomorrow, was thinking. That is awareness but not deep thinking. So, I'm not sure that I would say that my mother was a moral monster, except on occasion. My dad tried, but she was misdirected and philosophically mushy. He came on too strong and scared her. She was directedy purely by emotion, and if someone gentler and kinder, as it were, had tried the same arguments and discussions as my dad had, she may have had a better understanding. Also, when she was young, her parents never really taught her to think. They spoiled her and doted on her. They continued to dote on her after she was married, so how was she to learn? I remember the nuns at school using Genovese's plight as a talking point in religion class when I was a high schooler. During the discussion, we all came up with ideas as to why no one would have responded. Several people said, correctly, that everyone assumed that everyone else had called the police, and several other people said that witnesses were afraid for their own safety and lives, also true. We also discussed whether these people were making conscious decisions or whether they were simply reacting out of fear, that is, not taking action in a fight-or-flight response. I have been able to apply that discussion (and concept) to my personal life many times over the yrs. The first happened when I was a child, and a visibily drunk woman was staggering across a busy street near our house. It was cold (above zero, but cold enough to wear a coat in the US) and she was not wearing boots. In fact, I think she was missing one shoe. I was able to see her from my parents' dining room window. Cars were slowing down, going around her, avoiding her, but it was only a matter of time before someone hit her. I told my father to call the police. He said someone else would call. We watched her for another couple of minutes, she got up on the curb, and then walked out into traffic again. Again, I told him to call. I was just a kid, so telling my dad, an adult, to do something was very brave of me. Finally, I said, "If you don't call, I will," and I walked up to the phone and lifted it off the receiver. My dad took the phone from me and made the call. We continued to watch the woman for about 8 more minutes, until a squad car pulled up. My dad admitted, "I'm glad I made that call. If it hadn't been for you, I wouldn't have thought of it." Wow. What a life lesson. This, from a man who could have been Ayn Rand's clone when it came to economics, and who had always shouted at us to "THINK!" Often, when he'd ask us why we'd done something particularly stupid, we'd respond, "I didn't think it mattered." He would interrrupt at the word "think" and shout, "That's exactly right. You didn't THINK!" Another example is the time one of my high school friends witnessed a car accident on the freeway. The car flipped over, went airborne, and landed in a ditch. My friend and her family continued driving, never stopping to help, never calling anyone. This was in the days before cell phones, but still, they could have pulled over. That's what people did back then. I got on her case, and she said her parents said that someone else would call. No one did. I got on her case again (poor thing, she wasn't even old enough to drive and I just wouldn't let it go), and a week or two later, she said that maybe they should have called. She had read in the paper that the driver was trapped in the car and burned to death. "Maybe" they should have called? "Maybe" they should have stopped? To this day, she is a "wilting violet" and she is no longer my friend. Her parents taught her too well. Who taught your mother? Did she really have a chance? And in regard to Genovese, there is an expression about the word "assume." "It makes an ass out of you and me." ASS-U-ME. A third example occurred about 10 yrs ago when I was an adult, and this had a happy ending. A woman in a nearby neighborhood (an awesome neighborhood, restored homes from 1910-1920, very close knit) was raped. She screamed her head off. Before the rapist could get away, a half dozen people from a half dozen different homes descended upon him. He was toast. No one assumed that someone else would help her. Maybe it's people like Genovese who have ignited those of us who remember her. Again, I disagree w/your conclusion about why Ayn Rand did not know who was worse, the perpetrator of an evil, or the victim who let the perpetrator do it to him without resisting. I don't think this is the type of thing she meant. She grew up under repressive Soviet rule. She didn't understand why everyone else just went along with it. She was young. She knew fear, but only to a point. She was able to escape and then, to "resist." She spent the rest of her life "resisting." I think that sometimes, in order to resist, you have to personally experience something worse, so that you can know what the end result would be. IOW, some people don't understand that not resisting is adding to the evil. They think that just not participating is good enough. They need to be educated.
  9. Congratulations! She sounds very sweet and loving. However, in my own experience, I saw this as a red flag: But I wonder if any of you think that problems might develop if Thi continues not to be interested in ideas? If she's the type to watch soap operas all day and you're the type to want intellectual stimulation, I see trouble ahead. Perhaps because you are interested in ideas, you could get her interested? Your enthusiasm is surely contagious. I agree with another post here, lead by example.
  10. "Bailout" Demotivational Poster

    I LOVE this company! These posters would do well in a college classroom. Our local univ has a course on capitalism. Maybe I should email them w/this company's link. The posters are too big for my walls, but I'd be happy to have a desk calendar w/some of their work. I laughed out loud at the piggy bank poster that said, "From each according to his ability."
  11. One more thing--I saw a thread on ADHD. That was our first sign that something was different about our son. He broke every single toy he was ever given, lost or destroyed numerous decks of cards, games and toys. He ripped clothing, knocked over chairs, destroyed so many things that we had to constantly monitor him, lock up dangerous tools or kitchen implements. Only in the past 3 yrs have I been able to sit down and play board games with him. So many years, lost. But I can only look forward, or at least, live in the moment, so I don't get depressed. ADHD can be a symptom of Asperger's, bipolar, or schizoaffective disorder. If only we know what to look for ... I don't know if you were ADHD as a child, but since you probably ran around outside more than kids today do, your energy was probably put to good use.
  12. Hi Bob, nice to meet you. Based on my mere 12 yrs of experience w/my son, I doubt that he has the motivation or wherewithal for self direction (as compared to you, for example). I can only wish he were the geeky type. I haven't given up totally. I can't. I'm his mother. But some days, I wonder what would happen if I just disappeared. BTW, my son hates math. He hates writing. He's actually very verbal. But he has no imagination. He almost never dreams. He's had only one nightmare in his life. The rule-based activities in which he excels at the moment are baseball, football, and basketball. It could be worse. I have sat down on a few occasions and made faces so that my son can identify different expressions and moods. He has improved quite a bit in that area. I am always clarifying puns, plays on words, and expressions. But he still has his own "rules" in his mind, and loudly shouts whenever someone breaks them. For example, if I change the menu for dinner because I forgot to thaw out something, he'll shout, "You lied!" Yesterday I told him that he could finish his book report in an hr after football practice. He insisted it would take longer, and instead of reasoning it out by how fast he types, how quickly he researches, etc. he merely screamed at me, "LIAR!" He is on medication for anxiety and depression, which takes the edge off, but he still overreacts to "pressure" or expectations, so it's going to be a long road. You are to be commended on your diligence, clarity, and tenacity. I'll back Autism Awareness Day, but I'm still not thrilled about Autistic Pride Day. BTW, I noticed on one of the autism threads, that someone said that most parents would get upset if you used the expression, "I didn't sign up for this." I may be one exception. We adopted our son when he was 2 days old. We had no idea what was in store for us. I cannot tell you how many times I have said, "I didn't sign up for this!" Thank you for the support.
  13. The untapped power of the human mind

    I don't know if anyone is reading this thread any more, but I wanted to chime in. "Wow!" was my first thought when I saw the drawing. "Wow!" was my second thought when I read this: At eight he sold his first drawing, of Salisbury Cathedral, which motivated him to communicate with others and gave him the ability to lead an independent life. It is so hard for autistics to maintain an independent life. To answer the question at the beginning of this thread, yes, that sort of "talent" or ability does come with a price. It's not the same as the eidetic or photographic memory that several people here have (had). It's way beyond that.
  14. LOL! Interesting statement. I have a son who is an Aspie, and I, for, one, am not celebrating. He is one of the most miserable people I know. He's always angry because he can't or won't do what "the rest of us" do, and is totally self defeating. It's exhausting getting him to accomplish the slightest task. We have to bribe him every step of the way. The only things he's interested in are video games and junk food, which he's allergic to. Oh, and football. I keep hoping that some day, some lightbulb will go off and he will do things just for the sake of doing them, because they are right. I really wonder who came up w/the idea for Autistic Pride Day. I realize that some are higher functioning, and don't want to be looked down on, but it is a neurological deficit and makes life very difficult. If you're lucky enough to have the savant portion, you're lucky indeed.
  15. Hi Abaco. I feel a bit silly welcoming you when I just joined a few days ago. I have a son w/Asperger's and found your post under a search for autism. Actually, one of the reasons I joined this forum was to be able to discuss rational things in depth w/other adults, after a long, hard day, or even a long hour, spent w/my son, who tends to argue and yell about everything, especially when he doesn't know what he's talking about. I am on other parenting boards, but most of those people devote themselves totally to their children, and I find that if I do that, I will be totally lost, intellectually and emotionally.