Tom Hall

Erotic videos

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During Dr. Kenner and Dr. Locke's talk on Romance at OCON 2006, Dr. Kenner mentioned that erotic videos can be a wonderful adjuct to a sexual relationship, but she also warned that some of these contain dehumanizing material that she would rather have never seen.

Rather than having to go through similar experiences ourselves, I'm asking people to post recommendations here for erotic videos with a good (or at least decent) sense-of-life, and also to post warnings about ones that contain disturbing material.

Thanks !

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During Dr. Kenner and Dr. Locke's talk on Romance at OCON 2006, Dr. Kenner mentioned that erotic videos can be a wonderful adjuct to a sexual relationship, but she also warned that some of these contain dehumanizing material that she would rather have never seen.

Rather than having to go through similar experiences ourselves, I'm asking people to post recommendations here for erotic videos with a good (or at least decent) sense-of-life, and also to post warnings about ones that contain disturbing material.

Thanks !

I don't see too many wishing to - um - expose themselves here, so let me be the first.

I remember, back in the seventies, going with my wife to see "Deep Throat" when it came out in theatre. The majority of viewers were couples. The movie had a very humorous aspect to it, and apart from laughter during the show, I was struck by the smiles and interaction among the patrons as they exited the theatre.

Quite honestly it is not movies about sex that bother me. It is the Kill Bill and Sin City violence that makes me angry.

Movies like Deep Throat never pretend to be anything but concerned with sex, and when done with beautiful bodies, need not be offensive.

Of course there is bad stuff out there, but that is the stuff that embraces the mindless violence of the two examples mentioned, not intertwined bodies. The actors I have seen interviewed came across as more normal than many current Hollywood stars. There is also the matter of taste in the sense of class. This is not common. Most erotic movies I have seen are tongue in cheek humour, for example playing a doctor checking out a patient and speaking the most ridiculous dialogue.

It all depends on what one looks for I suppose (as with even the movies I give thumbs down to above). If you enjoy seeing beautiful bodies, and enjoy sex, then you may find what you are looking for in an erotic movie. Which one? Don't know, so I suggest asking your local video store for suggestions among their stock.

The real pornography we see on our screens, is that of the intellect, not the body. Those who glorify mindlessness are far worse than those concerned with sexual aspects of the body.

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For clarity, what is the specific distinction being drawn between erotic videos and pornographic videos?

I would assume one distinction that can be drawn is that in some sexual films the actors are pretending to have sex, whereas in pornography they are literally having sex, and the act of sex is graphically portrayed.

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For clarity, what is the specific distinction being drawn between erotic videos and pornographic videos?

I would assume one distinction that can be drawn is that in some sexual films the actors are pretending to have sex, whereas in pornography they are literally having sex, and the act of sex is graphically portrayed.

There are many emotional meanings attached to the word. The literal meaning revolves around intent, the graphic depiction of sexual material for the main purpose of arousal. It doesn't matter if it is faked as far as I can see. Sometimes, the word can be used to convey the message of vulgarity or (as I used it above)corruption; a lack of redeeming value.

Betsy drew the line between erotica and pornography elsewhere, in that erotica was more concerned with literary or artistic merit. That seems a good distinction to me.

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For clarity, what is the specific distinction being drawn between erotic videos and pornographic videos?

I would assume one distinction that can be drawn is that in some sexual films the actors are pretending to have sex, whereas in pornography they are literally having sex, and the act of sex is graphically portrayed.

My goal here is talk about videos that tend to produce sexual arousal when viewed. I think this can be done by videos of good actors pretending to have sex, and also by videos of actors literally having sex, so I consider both to be erotic. (It might be worth reminding people that discussion should meet the same standards as on the rest of THE FORUM -- no coarse language or detailed graphic descriptions, and no explicitly sexual pictures.)

Since this could turn into a huge list, it might be more practical to focus on the ones that were surprisingly disturbing - where you rented it thinking it would help you and your lover "get in the mood", but it turned out to have a horrible sense-of-life and your philosophical/aesthetic revulsion overpowered any sexual arousal.

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My goal here is talk about videos that tend to produce sexual arousal when viewed. I think this can be done by videos of good actors pretending to have sex, and also by videos of actors literally having sex, so I consider both to be erotic.

Do you remember if anything was said in the Romance course that would clarify whether literal pornographic films (where people are really recorded having sex) were included in the erotic films that Dr. Kenner recommended? Before Carlos' post, I had assumed that they would be included, but now that he mentioned it, I have heard people differentiate between the two.

For the purposes of this thread, maybe it would be helpful to have a distinction--I think the traditional way of distinguishing between the two is "Softcore" for erotic movies where people are merely pretending to have sex, or otherwise being erotic without having sex, and "Hardcore" for erotic movies where the actors are literally having sex.

So, when reviewing a movie, it may be helpful to name upfront whether it is a Hardcore or Softcore film--because some people may be only interested in seeing films of one kind or the other, and wouldn't need to read a whole review if they know it's not the kind of thing they're interested in anyway.

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For the purposes of this thread, maybe it would be helpful to have a distinction--I think the traditional way of distinguishing between the two is "Softcore" for erotic movies where people are merely pretending to have sex, or otherwise being erotic without having sex, and "Hardcore" for erotic movies where the actors are literally having sex.
Would it be helpful to make one further distinction: movies that are explicit, but are intended for educational purposes? I'm thinking of a tape I bought many years ago entitled The Art of Erotic Massage (as well as books such as The Joy of Sex). The tape is anatomically explicit, but I definitely wouldn't call it pornographic.

Surely it's desirable to learn ways to have more enjoyable sex. That can be accomplished to some extent with both the hard- and soft-core varieties of movie, but the "educational" kind seems to me to be a different classification altogether.

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Would it be helpful to make one further distinction: movies that are explicit, but are intended for educational purposes?

I think it would.. "Educational" sounds like a good classification. So, what would you say about the tape you bought? Was it worth it? Anything repulsive? Did you learn anything useful? Was it shot in a way that was erotic and/or artistic, or was it purely instructional?

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I think it would.. "Educational" sounds like a good classification. So, what would you say about the tape you bought? Was it worth it? Anything repulsive? Did you learn anything useful? Was it shot in a way that was erotic and/or artistic, or was it purely instructional?
First of all, I got the title wrong: it's The Art of Sensual Massage. I remember learning some things (this was perhaps 12 years ago) as well as seeing things I already knew. Nothing repulsive. As for the erotic/artistic aspects, it was middle of the road across the board - not intended merely to arouse, and average production values and quality. Overall I'd say it was worthwhile, but not top-of-the-line.

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