la zafada

"The star to every wandering bark"

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Last Sunday, my sweetheart R and I were married.

I mention it here on The Forum because Objectivism has had such an influence on each of us individually and on our relationship.

The philosophy has been instrumental in our lives since adolescence. Via an essay he wrote while at the Bronx High School of Science, R became the “water boy” at NBI, setting up for speakers and doing other chores in return for attending the lectures. He was fortunate enough to have met Ayn Rand and Frank O’Connor a few times. His interest in Objectivism continued to develop and for the last ten years R has chaired a private weekly study group. As for me, I was handed Anthem in eleventh grade by a friend who was a Mormon, and plunged into studying on my own. Although I worked on West 34th Street in NYC for a couple of years during the time that Ayn Rand lived on East 34th Street, I had no contact with her or with other students of Objectivism until I attended her wake on that moonlit night in March, 1982.

In 1993, R and I first became aware of and attracted to each other through our posts on Robert Stubblefield’s Objectivism Study Group. (Thanks, Bob, wherever you are.) In 1994, we briefly met in person at the Objectivism conference in San Francisco. Based on R’s playful general posts on OSG, the whole of our conversation was:

Me: Are you the Intergalactic Sub-commander?

Him: No, I’m the Intergalactic Commander.

Obviously, we understood each other from the start. No wonder that soon we were communicating almost daily by phone and e-mail.

In 1997 I moved across the country to be with R. Ten years, two months and two days later we married in law, after realizing that we’d been married in fact long before.

I include below our favorite sonnet as an expression of our marriage.

Let me not to the marriage of true minds

Admit impediments. Love is not love

Which alters when it alteration finds,

Or bends with the remover to remove:

O no! it is an ever-fixed mark

That looks on tempests and is never shaken;

It is the star to every wandering bark,

Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.

Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks

Within his bending sickle's compass come:

Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,

But bears it out even to the edge of doom.

If this be error and upon me proved,

I never writ, nor no man ever loved.

Shakespeare's Sonnet 116

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Congratulations la zafada!

May there always be happiness in yours, and R's lives. :(

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Congratulations!! :(

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Last Sunday, my sweetheart R and I were married.

I mention it here on The Forum because Objectivism has had such an influence on each of us individually and on our relationship.

I've known each of you -- perhaps before you met each other -- and I'm so happy for both of you. It's so neat that Betsy's Law #2 works for love and romance, too.

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Thank you so much for sharing your story. Congratulations, and may you sail with the wind at your back.

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la zafada, I happily offer you this light celebratory tribute.

la zafada and R, they are wed,

They are joined in a mutual bliss;

Now let it be known and be said,

There was never a couple like this.

For it wasn't the stars or the moonlight,

Or a dance in the twilight hours,

That brought them together with true sight

And unleashed their romantic powers,

But only a played understanding,

Oft filtered through words of command,

Of spaces and places dividing

Till hand reached at last into hand.

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Congratulations la zafada!!

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Thank you all for your good wishes!

B., thank you for writing that poem. It's what poetry should be: like speaking, but better.

Betsy, I wish I'd known about your two laws a long time ago!

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