Dilemma at work
Posted 14 November 2012 - 09:12 PM
Posted 15 November 2012 - 12:20 PM
I've dated a few and I know what it's like when things don't go well. I've also witnessed stormy relationships with people who've worked closely together. It has never, ever, been toxic. Things may be a bit more difficult, but when people act like adults problems can be worked out.
Had I been her boss it would have been a problem. I think that's against employers policy. A problem like that can easily be solved by someone relocating to another team. Which is usually what happens anyway if co-workers start dating.
I think it's much more sensible to realize that life is finite and you have to seize the opportunities you find. I'm not going to allow myself the luxury of rejecting a potentially great value because the circumstances could make things more difficult. When I meet someone I like, I go for it. Then solve any problems that may arise.
And I know there are some popular sayings, which i'm not going to repeat, about the matter. I've heard it a million times, and I consider it all a bunch of nonsense.
Posted 15 November 2012 - 02:56 PM
Posted 15 November 2012 - 09:40 PM
Regarding work environment there's one important thing i've learned. Whatever the problem may be, like failed romance or conflicts, make it your responsibility to have a good environment. Lead by example and you'll get others with you to create an environment that you like working in.
I say that just as a general reflection, since you mentioned work environment. It's such a simple thing, but people tend to forget that which can make a little friction into huge, nasty, problems(I noticed that when I started at my current job, and today the environment is simply wonderful).
Posted 03 December 2012 - 04:58 PM
That said, my position is pure conjecture but since you posted this in a public forum seeking input you can't really expect more than that.
Posted 04 December 2012 - 06:52 PM
After seeing lots of office relationships I don't buy the Fight Club part. Not at all. However, her more conservative approach is certainly understandable. Her decision is of course based on what she thinks of it. Though I must say that my approach is a significant influence.
0 user(s) are reading this topic
0 members, 0 guests, 0 anonymous users